Next up in my #BodyPositivityTime series is the wonderful Talia of http://earthtotalia.blogspot.co.uk/ who is super positive on her blog and social media, as well as taking an active interest in important issues such as raising awareness of mental health. I was so pleased when Talia said she wanted to get involved with my little blog series as I regard her as such a positive and couldn’t wait to see what she had to say. So without further ado, I’ll pass you over to Talia….
“When I think of body positivity, I think of a battle. A battle toward the day where you can finally look at your body and feel positive about it.
It’s a battle that so many people face daily. But… why is that?
I mean, nobody is born disliking their body. Nobody is born scrutinising themselves for all of the so-called “flaws” that they believe they have. These negative thoughts and feelings that we have toward our bodies are something that we’ve learned along the way.
Whether you choose to blame society, the media, or both of the above, you can’t deny that we’re constantly being bombarded with messages about what’s beautiful and what’s not. We’re told what we should strive to look like, and what we should strive not to look like. And slowly but surely, we start to soak it all in, and we begin to pick ourselves apart. And sometimes, other people who have soaked these messages in think that it’s okay to pick us apart, too.
The worst part of it all, though, is that we now live in a world where the standards of beauty have been set so high that they’re essentially unattainable. Not to mention, of course, that we’re constantly being fed contradictory messages about what even makes a “good” body in the first place. One minute, we’re hailing a Hollywood celebrity for their lean figure. The next, we’re ripping them apart for being “too skinny”, “a bag of bones”, a “skeleton”… We insist that only “real women have curves”. But then, suddenly, we’re being told that these “real”, curvy women are actually “chubby”, or “fat”, and calling them vile names.
It’s no wonder that so many people struggle to feel body-positive when, no matter what, there will always be someone finding fault with how we look.
…But you know what? Screw that.
Beauty is, after all, in the eye of the beholder. You get to have your own opinion on what you think is beautiful. So… go ahead. Decide that you are beautiful.
Just because one person has a negative view of the type of body you have, doesn’t mean that you should, too. *Everybody* has differing views of what makes a body beautiful. Their opinion doesn’t have to be your opinion, and their negativity doesn’t have to become your negativity. It’s impossible to be seen as beautiful by everyone – but we can choose to see ourselves as beautiful.
And, don’t get me wrong – I understand that it’s not always as easy as that. But don’t forget that being body-positive doesn’t necessarily mean you have to LOVE your body. That’d be a great thing to strive for, but if you can’t achieve it, that doesn’t make you a failure.
I might not “love” my body – but I have learned to accept it.
And you know what? That’s one of the most positive things that I have ever done.”
I had chills reading this and I’m sure you did, too. So pleased to have this amazing piece featured on my blog.
also, it’s not too late to get involved to read this for more information and spread the positivity on social media with the hashtag #BodyPositivityTime so I can see it.
Love from Rach xoxo